MALE`S SEXUAL FANTASIES
The male sexual fantasies are often deemed as nonsense by the women, and hardly ever they’d get on with it. Sex with two women at the same time or a quickie anywhere they pleased, sex in the elevator, spanking (give a couple of slaps on her bum while at it) yet call her a slut. All of which might impart some bizarre connotation, isn’t it? Not as far as they can see, threading on likewise sexual fantasies might be more widespread than some might think. To thread fantasies is quite healthy, as long as bounded up into the imaginary, mostly when the other is not willing to share them. Respect means essential then once it takes two to tango.
Mind you, didn’t you know that the male imaginary isn’t so rich after all? That’s right the women tended to fantasize much more. In childhood, the girls are brainwashed into fantasy threading whereas the boys are inculcated to become practical and objective. The difference between sexual leniencies of both the females and males lie in the fact that the male ones are, if you will, more bold and prone to mischievous settings and less socially acceptable. Counterclockwise, the female sexual fantasy is riddle with affective and erotic fabrics, most of the time lingering to sex and loving. And this aspect turns bringing and dishing their fantasies out to the partner a lot easier for them.
Let’s highlight a few male orientated sexual fantasies, which seem always on their minds.
-Having sex in the elevator, public places. The danger brings along certain arousal and likely situations lead us to believe that the men who do not appreciate that are those in good terms with themselves, who are out for one off only.
But sometimes it does not work that way. Those men who need this kind of fantasy, by and large are not so self-assured a one might think, since those who feel secure of themselves and well-sorted out sexually speaking can get beside themselves by the slightest hint of affection.
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Making love to two women altogether, it’s the fantasy that drives men literally crazy.
Choose which one, better still, opting between the girlfriend and the hottie from work, figure of speech.
No wonders this one is such fantasy that mulls over the imaginary of men, because in their minds, get together two opposite types of woman that attract them is the epitome of their sexual pursuit.
As a matter of fact, why two women and what’s with being different? Perhaps unconsciously it might be explainable. It goes without saying that therein a strong lesbus element lies well-within.
On average, the male gets all worked up and feels highly aroused if spotting two women kissing each other, reaching out for one another, exchanging strokes. Therefore voyeurism could be hinted in here, once they can help themselves by staring at such trade off intimate caresses between two women.
For them, following the whole process through which the woman goes to derive sexual pleasure, from the first shudders, their pleasure stricken faces, listen to their moan and the whole body altering itself with lust, it drives them bananas.
-Sex with the pros: A man prizes sex with the pros enormously, mainly when something does not click in his relationship or at work or even in the family, it’s when that urge strikes him to go overboard somehow.
This is when they grow interested in raw sex, kinky, with no strings attached. That streak might come out as a way to get it out of his system. In a more spontaneous way though.
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SadoMasochism (SM) They might try to deny it but from time to time certain sadomasochist demeanors permeate their minds, and can not be denied so far.
The women end up by stumbling upon it sooner or later.
When they ask for things like relying on vulgar language, as in calling us bitches, like I’ll eat you out, hold or pull hair roughly also make part of their antics. If all comes latched on flogging, body punishment, scratches, belting and the use of sex-devices, then surely they’d blow their tops off.
Who usually gets stricken by this kind of streak as to whether hit or take hit when it comes to sex could have gone through some kind of despicable punishment or humiliation lingered to sprees of sexuality, back in childhood. Thus depends on the person whether it could sip in or not.
The pleasure in feeling or inflicting pain too true becomes an unconscious tendency to being punished, since there would be the way he could draw some attention towards himself back in the day, which any child yearns for.
Upon the upbringing and how the relatives deal with the sexual-affective matters is what dictates the personality traits of someone. As to how one would come to terms with self-fantasies, sexuality and the outlook towards intimacy with others.
By Adriana Sommer da Costa
Psychologist and Sexologist